I often receive phone calls and emails from those who had a loss of a special member of their family. Some were old, lived great lives, and left lots of precious memories. Others were young, things left unexplained, and the memories they have will be cherished forever. There are no words to express how sorry I am for anyone’s loss, but I know first-hand how bad it hurts and how hard it is to suffer a loss of a family member.
Mary & Charlie’s Story
I first spoke with Mary (Charlie’s wife) at the end of June about adopting a new fur-baby to add to their family. They had a trip planned and wouldn’t be able to get their new family member until the end of September.
I was in an accident on August 28th (that’s a story for another day). The next week Mary told me Charlie had cancer but the medicine he had been on for the last year was working….until now. So both of our lives were turned upside down within a matter of days of each other. As I healed a little bit each day, Charlie’s body was going in the opposite direction. We tried to get Benjii to her sooner in hopes it would help Charlie, but the timing did not work out. Charlie was moved into Hospice and passed away on September 23rd, the day after Benjii arrived (one month from today).
I don’t know if I was in the right frame of mind with everything going on with myself, but I often asked myself if it was the right time to bring in a new puppy for her family. After speaking to Mary several times, I knew it was right for her family.
It is very hard to make yourself get excited or happy about anything when you are grieving the loss of a loved one. I had a heartfelt smile when I read her email on October 10th that said..”One week ago, we laid my husband / father to rest. All of this has been just unbelievable but I totally trust God and know that Charlie is always near us. We love Benjii. He has brought joy at a time of great sorrow.”
On that same day….October 10th I received a message from Kay, that there was an accident and Pumpkin had died (my heart sunk in disbelief). Kay has been a very dear friend of mine for several years and a life saver in so many ways to so many people (she’s also an awesome groomer). She got Pumpkin from me when she was just a baby and took her everywhere with her. That little girl was loved by so many people, many of Kay’s customers would go into her grooming salon just to see Lil Miss Pumpkin.
I waited for her to post something on Facebook and thought maybe if she didn’t post anything it meant it wasn’t real. Then the next day came and there was her post….She was hoping she had just woke up from a terrible nightmare, but that wasn’t the case. :0(
Pumpkin was taken from us too soon, but I know she was greeted at the end of the Rainbow Bridge with open arms by Charlie. (I can just picture in my head Pumpkin wagging her tail and a smile on Charlie’s face)
Several days later, Kay wrote to me and said, “I will be a member of the Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu Family again.” I assured her, she will always be a member of our family…once you have one of our babies, you are family for life!
I absolutely love getting to know our puppy parents. I have met so many wonderful people and almost all of them say “I don’t know how you do it, I could never let them go.” Well, this is one of the reasons I do it….I absolutely LOVE meeting our puppy parents and bringing joy into their lives. I know that Mary was brought into my life for a reason and I’m so grateful to bring a little bit of joy into hers.
In the comments section please share a memory of Charlie, Pumpkin, or your loved one that has passed. Through our memories, they will live forever!