Grief Healing: Through Our Memories They Will Live Forever

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I often receive phone calls and emails from those who had a loss of a special member of their family.   Some were old, lived great lives, and left lots of precious memories. Others were young, things left unexplained,  and the memories they have will be cherished forever. There are no words to express how sorry I am for anyone’s loss, but I know first-hand how bad it hurts and how hard it is to suffer a loss of a family member.

Charlie Smith

Mary & Charlie’s Story

I first spoke with Mary (Charlie’s wife) at the end of June about adopting a new fur-baby to add to their family.  They had a trip planned and wouldn’t be able to get their new family member until the end of September.

I was in an accident on August 28th (that’s a story for another day). The next week Mary told me Charlie had cancer but the medicine he had been on for the last year was working….until now.  So both of our lives were turned upside down within a matter of days of each other.  As I healed a little bit each day, Charlie’s body was going in the opposite direction.  We tried to get Benjii to her sooner in hopes it would help Charlie, but the timing did not work out. Charlie was moved into Hospice and passed away on September 23rd, the day after Benjii arrived (one month from today).

I don’t know if I was in the right frame of mind with everything going on with myself, but I often asked myself if it was the right time to bring in a new puppy for her family.  After speaking to Mary several times, I knew it was right for her family.

It is very hard to make yourself get excited or happy about anything when you are grieving the loss of a loved one.  I had a heartfelt smile when I read her email on October 10th that said..”One week ago, we laid my husband / father to rest.  All of this has been just unbelievable but I totally trust God and know that Charlie is always near us. We love Benjii.  He has brought joy at a time of great sorrow.”

Pumpkin

Pumpkin’s Story

On that same day….October 10th I received a message from Kay, that there was an accident and Pumpkin had died (my heart sunk in disbelief).  Kay has been a very dear friend of mine for several years and a life saver in so many ways to so many people (she’s also an awesome groomer).  She got Pumpkin from me when she was just a baby and  took her everywhere with her. That little girl was loved by so many people, many of Kay’s customers would go into her grooming salon just to see Lil Miss Pumpkin.

I waited for her to post something on Facebook and thought maybe if she didn’t post anything it meant it wasn’t real.  Then the next day came and there was her post….She was hoping she had just woke up from a terrible nightmare, but that wasn’t the case. :0(

Pumpkin was taken from us too soon, but I know she was greeted at the end of the Rainbow Bridge with open arms by Charlie.  (I can just picture in my head Pumpkin wagging her tail and a smile on Charlie’s face)

Several days later, Kay wrote to me and said, “I will be a member of the Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu Family again.” I assured her, she will always be a member of our family…once you have one of our babies, you are family for life!

I absolutely love getting to know our puppy parents. I have met so many wonderful people and almost all of them say “I don’t know how you do it, I could never let them go.”   Well,  this is one of the reasons I do it….I absolutely LOVE meeting our puppy parents and bringing joy into their lives.  I know that Mary was brought into my life for a reason and I’m so grateful to bring a little bit of joy into hers.

In the comments section please share a memory of Charlie, Pumpkin, or your loved one that has passed.  Through our memories, they will live forever!

 

 

 

 

Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu: 2016 Planning

 

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We cannot believe it is October already and 2016 is just around the corner!  Are you preparing and planning for 2016 yet?

We’ll  post a recap of 2015 late December…by the way it has been an amazing year and it’s not over yet!

However,  we are starting to focus in on starting 2016 with a BIG bang and we hope you are around to see it because it’s going to be AMAZING! In order to do that we have to start getting things set in place so when the New Year starts we are ready to take off.

Here are FIVE things that you can expect to see:

1.) First off since you’re seeing this on the blog, the goal is to keep writing and have a post once a week. (WARNING) we do love to write, but we are not perfect so there will be typos and improper grammar. We’ll do our best and hopefully improve as we write more, but we’re not making any promises! The promise we are making is to provide you with some really fun and informative content each week. :0)

2.) New and Improved website – yep, that’s right we’ll be redoing the whole Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu website using a new program that is integrated with all of the social media platforms!

3.) Hello Social Media! You got it, Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu will be making it’s presence in Social Media. We’ve been on YouTube for a few years, but the goal is to improve things and put more out there!  Also,  just in case you didn’t know…we are now on Facebook so come on over and like the Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu Facebook page! We’ll definitely let everyone know when we join other platforms so you can follow along, like, share, give hearts (hint hint), and maybe win some free stuff too!

4.) Hello contests! Who doesn’t like to win stuff? Well stay tuned because we have some fun and exciting contests we are planning for everyone in 2016….and we might even start sooner! Are you smiling ear to ear right now?  Well, we are! It is fun to give stuff away. :0)

5.) Speaking of giving stuff away…we are going to be including A LOT more when you adopt one of our precious Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu! It’s ok for those of you who are already part of our Tiny Tot Shih-Tzu Family, we will be including you in everything and offering huge discounts on what we create!

These are just five things we are working on, but we have plans to do more after we get a few of these started and get all of the kinks worked out!

Please let us help you!

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3 Reasons to Adopt an Adult Dog

As a small in-home breeder of Shih-Tzu, one of the hardest things we have to do is place our adults when they are retired from our breeding program.  This is a very difficult thing to do because they are such a huge part of our family.  We are limited to the number of Shih-Tzu we can have and in order to continue to do what we love, we have to do what is in the best interest of our fur-babies.

Here are a few reasons to adopt an adult over a puppy:

  1. There are No Unknowns.  We know the exact full-grown size, weight, and personality. This can make things a lot simpler to match the right fur-baby with your family.
  2. No Puppy Stages to Go Through. Puppies are a lot of fun, but also a lot of work. If you are looking to bi-pass the infant, terrible-two’s, adolescence, puberty, and teenage stages but want the love and companionship of a Shih-Tzu then an adult might be a better fit for you.
  3. Easy to Train and Fewer Messes. There is always a short transition for an adult to get acclimated to his/her new home, but you don’t have to worry about them chewing on your furniture or getting into things. They know where they are supposed to go potty and learn the routine of things very quickly. Once they get it all down, it’s smooth sailing!

We recently placed a few of our adults and it was such a very hard and emotional thing to go through. The one thing that really helps me through this is getting to know our puppy parents and knowing that the new homes our adult Shih-Tzu are going to are exceptional.  It is a huge responsibility as a breeder to make sure the personality and traits of our adults are going to be a good match with their new families.

Tiny Tot Shih Tzu Adult Shih Tzu

We recently retired Kneesa, who was born and raised here. She has such a loving and sparkly personality, everyone who meets her falls in love.  It was a very difficult decision to retire her but it was in the best interest of her.  When Cathie first contacted me, we had a lot in common and it felt like it was meant to be.  She asked lots of really good questions and wasn’t sure about adopting from someone whom she’d never met before or actually seeing Kneesa in person. I totally understood and could relate with what she was feeling.  After she spoke with me numerous times and a couple of our puppy parents, she was ready to put the trust in me and adopt Kneesa.  I never really thought about how hard it was going to be to let Kneesa go until Cathie  made the commitment to her.

A week before Kneesa left us, I felt very anxious and really wasn’t sure I was doing the right thing. She had been with us since the day she was born, but I knew after speaking with Cathie she needed Kneesa. She had been through a few very rough years and she really needed this special little girl in her life to bring her love, joy, and happiness again.

The day Kneesa went to her new home, Alex went to the airport with me and he kept saying, “I can’t believe you placed her….I can’t believe you are letting her go.”  Maybe that was a good thing because I needed to make him believe as much as myself that this was the best thing for Kneesa and that Cathie needed Kneesa in her life.  Alex said his goodbye while in the car and then I took her into the airport. I held her for such a long time and it was very hard to say good-bye, but you know it wasn’t good-bye…it was I’ll see you soon.   Cathie texted me a picture as soon as she picked her up and I knew at that moment Kneesa was where she was meant to be.

I receive lots of texts with pictures and updates on how Kneesa is doing . As hard as it was and as much as it hurt letting her go, I know she really is where she is meant to be.  :0)

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